Had phimosis for 40 years, doesnt bother him and never had an infection

He writes:
Ok, so I've had phimosis all my life but never really been concerned. Then tonight I see a man on TV talking about it who seemed to have the exact same condition as me and the doctors insisted he was circumcised. I really don't want that!

My foreskin has never easily retracted over the head and only ever has about a dozen times my whole life!
For years I didn't realise I wasn't normal then in my early twenties after a rough bad hand job the foreskin was forced over the head and really hurt. The end of my penis ballooned and was reddy purple. I managed to force it back over but that was the end of that sexual experience lol. It seemed like that experience had weakened it though and it started happening occasionally during sex.
I had a good sex life for many years with only the occasional girl making a comment about my foreskin.
Sometimes if a girl jumped on top not too carefully then the foreskin could again be forced over. It hurt and looked ugly as the head ballooned. It's not really happened as much recently and I've even managed unprotected anal sex with my girlfriend without the foreskin being forced back!!

So....
I've lived with it 40 years should I really try fixing it now?

Stretching exercises scare me!! Here's why. I'm pretty sure if I tried I could get the foreskin over the head when erect but it would hurt! I'm not worried about the pain but I'm worried I could be left in a half way position where the foreskin can be forced over the head more easily and goes over it more often during sex but causing pain, looking ugly and ruining the sex. My foreskin hasn't retracted for about 4 or 5 years now so I'm worried stretching exercises could take me back to the days where sex would be interrupted by the pain of my foreskin retracting.
I've never had an STI or any other issues so apart from not being normal I'm thinking just live with it!? Do many guys on here do just that?
Has stretching made things worse for anyone?
I certainly don't want to get circumcised :/
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Early 20's - did not know it was supposed to retract - hasn't bothered him

He writes:
I'm a guy in my early twenties, and I only just realized that I'm supposed to be able to retract the foreskin behind the glans. Currently, I can only retract to where the tip of the glans becomes visible, erect and flaccid. I'm too scared to retract it any further, because it feels really tight and I'm scared I'll tear something or it might get stuck. Nobody ever told me that this should be possible (even though circumcision is rare where I grew up), and I always assumed that the penises in porn looked different because of circumcision.

Because this condition has never bothered me before, I'm trying to decide if I should be working to "fix" it. I've never had an infection, nor have I ever noticed any strange smells. I can masturbate without problem by stimulating the glans through the foreskin. Similarly, I have no issues with sensitivity when with a partner, and have achieved ejaculation both from hand jobs and oral sex. I've never had full penetrative sex, so I'm wondering whether I would have issues there. Most posts seem to suggest that it would be fine with a condom or lots of lube.

So the only reason I haven't started with the stretching exercises is that I'm not sure if I need to address this condition. I would greatly appreciate any advice from others who have been in this situation. Thanks in advance.

Source: http://www.network54.com/Forum/244184/thread/1432777400/last-1432832479/Should+I+be+working+to+%26quot%3Bcure%26quot%3B+my+phimosis-

Sex with phimosis - experience testimonial

THIS IS A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND NOT MEDICAL ADVICE

I'm 20 and have never been able to pull my foreskin behind the glans, either when flaccid or erect. I do stretching exercises and take measures to keep everything clean, and to my knowledge I have never had an infection. This has only ever managed to loosen the skin a little, but not do much else. But of course, having sex was my biggest worry: when I pull my foreskin back, I can feel some tightness since essentially the hole in the foreskin isn't big enough.

I had sex for the first time this week, and have now done it four times. I used a condom and put on the condom with my foreskin forwards. I had some initial problems with the first penetration, partly because I felt a little tight and partly because I was nervous; I lost my erection a couple of times. But by the time we sorted that out, it was absolutely fine. I felt the skin pull back a little bit when I inserted it, but not painfully so - it remained covering the vast majority of the glans. I was able to thrust and feel the skin move forwards and backwards, and feel the vagina around my penis: despite me being really nervous about the whole thing, we both had a great time. It was really pleasurable - much, much better than masturbation! I now feel able to thrust a lot without worrying about hurting myself.

I'm not sure it would work so well without a condom. We used latex-free SKYN condoms, and (although I don't know much about condoms) I feel like their texture is thicker and less tight. The condom does stick pretty close to your skin, but this condom allowed for some extra movement. Condoms should never be completely tight because you should keep a little empty well at the end for your semen, and I wouldn't say that the condom is glued to my skin: when you move up and down, your skin moves, but there's some movement in the condom as well, so I guess friction is reduced.

I didn't use any artificial lubrication, but I've always felt like my own natural lubrication makes a big difference to how tight the skin is. In short, when I'm turned on, I feel less like sex will hurt. And just as importantly, my girlfriend was really turned on as well: the vagina can get pretty wet, and that will also help reduce the friction that could potentially hurt your skin. My advice is not to just stick it straight in there, but make sure your bodies are ready for it. Funnily enough, the first time, I found it quite hard to find the 'hole', since it seems really small at first, certainly not big enough for a (hardly impressively-sized) penis. But vaginas are a muscle. They are wet and change size depending on what you put in them. It feels tight and close around your dick but not too tight, since it sort of 'gives way' when you first penetrate. But I guess that won't happen if your partner isn't sufficiently aroused.

But when it comes to sex with phimosis, for me the most important thing was trust. This concern was something I'd talked about quite a bit to my girlfriend and so she knew I was worried. The best thing was that she told me that she didn't mind if it didn't work since she wasn't in it for the sex. Since sex with phimosis is scary and potentially problematic, I'd advise that you only do it with someone who you can talk to about it, and someone who really cares about your wellbeing. That means that if it goes wrong you'll feel much better about it, and it'll be more likely to be a positive experience, since your partner will allow you a bit of leeway and not expect you to be, er, aggressively and immediately thrusting from the word go. It's okay to feel insecure about your foreskin, but the solution is to find someone who will love you for who you are. (That sounds like sentimental crap, but, like all sentimental crap, it's also true.)

This is not medical advice. Every case is unique. It might be that my phimosis is mild enough for me to be able to have sex, or, as I've heard elsewhere, severe enough: if there's no possibility that a foreskin will slide down past the glans, sex is safer, since there's no possibility of the person hurting themselves. I've written this only because I want to have my story online: there seem to be very, very few positive experiences to read about sex with phimosis, even though, with such a common condition, it must happen all the time. Of course, you should seek medical attention before trying anything that might cause you harm. But in some cases, it is possible to have really fulfilling sexual experiences with phimosis, and you should entertain that possibility before changing your penis irreversibly. But if you are going to try to have sex with phimosis, do it with a condom, do it when aroused, do it carefully, and do it with someone you trust. And if anything hurts, STOP. Don't be stupid, and don't worry about looking like an idiot. Your health is more important than that.

Please, if you read this post, feel free to copy and paste it elsewhere; I've only posted it to share my experience because I think others might find it valuable. I don't need to be credited with it: I just want others to know that it is possible to have positive sexual experiences with this condition.

Source: http://www.network54.com/Forum/244184/thread/1423312182/last-1423329250/I+had+sex+with+phimosis

Mature female has phimosis fetish

Hello
I got motivated to share my opinion after lurking here for a while, just to add another perspective to the subject matter of this great, informative forum... and I have a confession, I'm a mature female and I absolutely love phimosis... right to the point that I can only find beautiful, sexy and appealing a penis with very, very tight foreskin (and thanks to the internet I know that I'm far from being alone in this).

This fascination has been growing since my early experiences with my first boyfriend back in my teens. I remember the first time I saw his penis: I thought it was the sexiest, cutest and most exciting sight of my life (needless to say, being "his" penis, that was initially enough for me to find it beautiful), but as we explored sex, I came to appreciate that long tight foreskin covering the head, ending on a tight tapered little snout which would never retract at all... we enjoyed quite memorable sexy times together for months until he ended becoming circumcised, obviously pressured by the so-called "professional opinions"... as I was young and naïve in sex back then, I didn't managed to convince him to not do it, despite the fact his phimosis never caused pain... he was convinced that he had to become "normal", and well... afterwards I sorely missed his old manhood, and in the erotic field, things would never be as exciting as before... then if I have a honest say in the matter, yes, I think circumcision ruins the penis, changing it from a fully sensitive erotic organ into a mechanical "tool", if the comparison makes sense...

I've had my share of partners since that early days, obviously with a marked preference towards uncut, but the more experienced I became, the more I liked the phimosis penis... I think there are another aspects into it as well; there is something deeply beautiful in the eroticism of a man with phimosis... his whole approach of sex can be inmensely caring and sensitive, never taking anything for granted, more willing to explore a girl orally, to massage and touch, and being in general more considerate and best lover than other guys, and despite the special care one has to have as a partner when handling a virility with tight foreskin, I decided that if the moment came to pick a definitive lover and companion, I'd want him to have phimosis.

Of course, I know that for some men is a problem when the foreskin is semi-tight and gets forced back and causes pain (and that's when the stretching is the most useful and the perfect approach, never resorting into any cutting), or when there are other skin complications like lychen or bxo... but those are specific conditions, and I feel is unfair to put all phimosis in the same badge. I really praise the dedication put by the administrators into this resource, helping to end so many misconceptions and prejudices and saving men from a nasty, unnecessary mutilation...  big hearts to you all

Okay... on an end note, I just wanted to reassure you, all you guys who come here and share your concerns and experiences, that you are as much fit for sex, desire and eroticism as any other male, and also make a case that a natural tight foreskin is normal and is erotic, exciting and desirable and doesn't have to be looked nor perceived as any disease nor deformity... is part of the wonderful differences present in nature, and there will certainly be partners willing to enjoy it as it is, intact and tight. 

kisses and best wishes to all x x

Source: http://www.network54.com/Forum/244184/thread/1384846813/last-1385383523/my+appreciation...+a+confession November 2013